Fear
We all handle our fears in many different ways. And many of these strategies are unconscious.
You may have noticed that some people get very loud in public and it may appear that they are showing off. In our seminar in Kuching recently, one acted the buffoon and was disruptive whenever other participants show some emotion. A couple of others laughed and joked when the process gets serious and others are getting deep into their feelings. Here in Brunei, many are sending messages and using their hand phones when the sharing of experiences are heartfelt. And when some of us were traveling in China together, a couple of us went into a "martyr", "I am just a small inconsequential person" mode of behaviour.
If you can look past this behaviour then you will understand that they are suffering from a deep seated insecurity. They have a fear of facing who they truly are; a caring human being who has love and great personal power. This fear comes from the possibility of being hurt as they may have had a negative past experience. Leo Buscaglia wrote that to love is to be vulnerable. And yet only in this vulnerability will we enjoy the happiness and fulfilment of our human potential.
So how are you handling your fears? Are you aware of your strategies to mask this fear from others?
You may have noticed that some people get very loud in public and it may appear that they are showing off. In our seminar in Kuching recently, one acted the buffoon and was disruptive whenever other participants show some emotion. A couple of others laughed and joked when the process gets serious and others are getting deep into their feelings. Here in Brunei, many are sending messages and using their hand phones when the sharing of experiences are heartfelt. And when some of us were traveling in China together, a couple of us went into a "martyr", "I am just a small inconsequential person" mode of behaviour.
If you can look past this behaviour then you will understand that they are suffering from a deep seated insecurity. They have a fear of facing who they truly are; a caring human being who has love and great personal power. This fear comes from the possibility of being hurt as they may have had a negative past experience. Leo Buscaglia wrote that to love is to be vulnerable. And yet only in this vulnerability will we enjoy the happiness and fulfilment of our human potential.
So how are you handling your fears? Are you aware of your strategies to mask this fear from others?
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