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Choose to get up & on the path to fulfilment...

Are you stuck sitting down, overanalysing, instead of getting up and taking that first step towards greater self understanding leading to greater peace and happiness?

Dear friend,

Great to see that you are struggling mightily and giving it the good fight rather than hanging up your gloves and retiring to a corner of life to wallow in uncertainty, self recriminations and unhappiness. You are a great person with a huge heart and capacity to love. When you are in power, wow! You really shine! And I have seen you shine as bright as any star in the human constellation.

I thought that you had great courage to hang in there in the pursuit of self understanding. When the conflict arises between the head and the heart, the easiest thing to do would be to cut and run. You won't be the first to do it in life if you did and you did not. So again one up for you on the steps towards greater happiness and peace. You are tougher than you give yourself credit for.

You are an honest person with high integrity and you know what is or is not good for you. As we always say, all the answers you need you already have. The important thing is that you be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you make your way through life. There will always be ups and downs. The important thing is to keep the right perspective and stay centered as you integrate your core values into your life amidst the storms that toss you back and forth and threatened to wreck havoc on your mind and physically. The mind is so powerful that massive amounts of negative thoughts can actually manifest in headaches, vomiting and illness. They even have a word for it ; psychosomatic - a physical disorder caused by emotions.

It is normal to feel all that you have felt. You are neither weird nor abnormal. What you experienced is just being a human being in the process of living a life on purpose. It is always a struggle to be your authentic self. It is a constant fight that Leo Buscaglia says you will have to fight for the rest of your life. If you give up, what else have you got?

Don't go into comparison with others as to the rate of your progress. This is your life and your own journey and you will do best to travel at the pace you need to to get what you want out of the whole process of living your authentic self and a meaningful existence. Decide what is best for you. Be aware that you are not numbing or hiding out so as to avoid what need doing. It is always easier to give up. Your friends see the best that is in you and wishes for you happiness and peace and a life of fulfillment and purpose. I know that I do.

I see in you a wonderful caring person with a loving heart who in her fullest power will be a force for contribution and positive change. I see you as a great human being living a life of purpose and ever expanding love for self and all around you.

Nothing and no one can stop you from fulfilling your purpose and living life to the fullest, except yourself. You have the power to choose. Take time to reflect and journal. Practice your core values in all you do. Do some positive affirmations daily. Believe in yourself as you do have the courage to make the tough choices and stick to the path that you have chosen. Set your intentions and be clear in yourself what you are choosing to do, otherwise it is easy to get stuck in the ego of "martyr", "victim" or "blame" (a mythical brother of our good friend Lay Hian who is a close friend of many of us. We named him Lay Blame.). You have friends; when you need support call a CV family friend or someone you feel is the right person at that moment. Make sure that the person you call on is energetically higher than you so you don't get into a "misery loves company" situation. Allow others to help you and in the process teach them that it is alright to seek help.

So what do you choose to do with your one wonderful opportunity to live life to the fullest?

Fear

We all handle our fears in many different ways. And many of these strategies are unconscious.

You may have noticed that some people get very loud in public and it may appear that they are showing off. In our seminar in Kuching recently, one acted the buffoon and was disruptive whenever other participants show some emotion. A couple of others laughed and joked when the process gets serious and others are getting deep into their feelings. Here in Brunei, many are sending messages and using their hand phones when the sharing of experiences are heartfelt. And when some of us were traveling in China together, a couple of us went into a "martyr", "I am just a small inconsequential person" mode of behaviour.

If you can look past this behaviour then you will understand that they are suffering from a deep seated insecurity. They have a fear of facing who they truly are; a caring human being who has love and great personal power. This fear comes from the possibility of being hurt as they may have had a negative past experience. Leo Buscaglia wrote that to love is to be vulnerable. And yet only in this vulnerability will we enjoy the happiness and fulfilment of our human potential.

So how are you handling your fears? Are you aware of your strategies to mask this fear from others?

4th July 2007

Wow...just look at the days go by! The second part of the year just started and it will be December before we realise it! This weekend we have Core Value Training Brunei at The Empire Hotel. We have pretty full classes. We just completed two weekends of classes in Kuching, Malaysia that were awesome just like the one in Taipei, Taiwan three weeks ago. Every class seem to be better than the last one if that is possible. I guess there seem to be an acceleration in the heightened awareness of the participants and this increases every CV session!

So where are you in your practice of awareness?

Thinking

Power of Intention by Dr. Wayne Dwyer

I was listening to the CD on my hour trip each way up and down Kuala Belait from Bandar Seri Begawan. I usually use the driving time to listen to audio books and find that it adds to my learning as I miss out on some points during my reading of the book.

This statement caught my attention: "What you think about, expands."

So when we think about wanting more money, we actually expand your "wanting more money" instead of getting richer. This statement comes from scarcity thinking which cause us to think, feel and take actions that expands this scarcity. So we end up not having enough and "wanting more money"

If this works out in the negative, then the better way to think as a strategy for success in life would be to think, "I live in abundance." This thinking would cause us to think, feel and behave with abundance and the law of attraction would work to generate abundance for us. As we think abundance, we talk abundance, attract the people who live in abundance to support us to generate abundance. Who would you wish to know and do business with; or to work with or for? A person with abundance thinking or one who is not?

So what is your self talk? How does it reflect your thinking?

Open mindedness and change

Taiwan Core value Training 14-17 June 2007

I learnt a great lesson this trip. I am always apprehensive of other trainers attending our CV program. When I heard that one of our participants was in the training business, a speaker, NLP practitioner and qualified in psychology I thought that she would have a hard time. This is caused by trainers being in their head (ego) and judging the programs from their own personal experience. This is normal.

However she kept an open mind and had a wonderful experience. Our CV process has enabled her to finally realized that all this while she has operated from the head and the people most important to her, in this case her son, had sensed it. Her 11 year old son frequently tells her that he loves her and always asked her if he is loved in return. She wonders why he keeps asking even though she always reply in the affirmative. Now she realizes that there was no essence of love in her reply. She had many tears of regrets mixed with joy and happiness with this new experience of finally understanding what she has been missing.

The CV process works for everyone because we are providing the tools to help people access the answers that are in them. They only have to choose what they wish to do now that they realized that they are responsible for their own life.

This further strengthens the contention that whatever we are in our life or profession, we can change if we choose to. So what are you holding on to that is stopping you from making progress in your journey towards greater self realization and happiness?

Airplanes

Isn't it amazing that this morning at 6AM I woke up in Brunei and at midnight 18 hours later I am going to bed in Taipei, thousands of miles away?

Humans are incredible. We have mastered flight and reduced travelling great distances into a matter of hours. All those dreamers who had it in their mind to fly like the birds were visionaries whose passion for the unthinkable then has made air travel commonplace today. WHen the Wright Brothers had their first successful solo flight, imagine the euphoria they felt! And today we tend to get complacent about what we have in terms of the convenieces and safety of air travel. We complain when the flight is late. We complain when the inflight food is not to our taste. We whine loudly when movies are unavailable! We forget how fortunate we are to live in this wonderful age of air travel where we can get to any point of earth within 24 hours! Wow!

Most of time when I am in a plane I am in awe of our human genius. The rest of the times I am sleeping soundly, secure in the knowledge that I am safe. When I look out the windows and see those whispery floating clouds, the beautiful sunrises and sunsets, the twinkling lights of human habitation thousands of miles below me, I think to myself, wow.....what a great life I have!

And today if you have the financial means to go with your desires you can even experience space travel. Such is our ingenuity as a species that we can plumb the depths of ocean, scale the highest mountains, fly like the birds from place to place and explore outer space.

All these came from our considerable human mind driven by our hearts desire to achieve and experience. What can YOU do that you have not attempted? What great changes in your life do you wish for that you have not been too proactive about?

I am in Taipei, Taiwan, about to take part again as an instructor in another great weekend of learning by myself and all the students of Linda (www.lindachandler.com) in her program Core Value Training (www.corevaluetraining.com) I am thankful for this opportunity to fulfil a lifetime dream of making a difference and living my life purpose by service to others. So many of my dreams have come true proving my primary school teachers wrong that dreaming is all I am good for. For in having dreams I somehow took the positive actions needed to gain the knowledge, skills and life experience to live a fruitful life.

What do you dream of for yourself and your family?